As I’ve grown more confident in my atheism I think people have grown less comfortable ...

We’ve lived in Connecticut, Nebraska, and now North Carolina. Up until about 6 years ago I was very quiet about my atheism. One of the first questions we’d get from new people is “do you have a church yet?” I felt as if people were asking “are you a good person?” When they’d ask that or if we were Christians. For years I’d just respond yes but started to say I wasn’t sure and that created an environment where every religious person tried to convince me why I should believe. I don’t think there was judgment but definitely they worked to save me. As I’ve grown more confident in my atheism I think people have grown less comfortable with us. We live on a cul-de-sac where everyone hangs out with everyone. We didn’t hide who we were when we moved here. It created some interesting conversations. But then we found we were invited to less and less things. Older kids turned down babysitting jobs after they checked with their parents. We’ve definitely found our tribe. But it isn’t the convenient one we thought we had when we first moved here.